Deb Espinoza's Real Estate BLOG

I attended a portion of a known Real Estate coach's seminar and after walking out early on the first day I find myself wondering how some businesses can stay in business. It just seemed to me as if this person had a mega 'chip' on his shoulder from conflict with daddy issues and his suggestion was that all agents go out and buy a t-shirt to wear under their clothes that says "Kiss my Ass". Hummm.. really??  I felt like he was taking his personal 'issues' and putting them on everyone else. I don't validate myself or what I do on what other people think or what I think they may be thinking or may think in the future. I do what I feel is right for me and my moral compass and what I can live with everyday when I look in the mirror. I try to live by the 'golden rule', think on the "WWJD?" and do my level best to 'do the right thing' while going the route in life and business that makes me happy and fulfilled- with no excuses-- and this requires no 'bad-ittude' on my part.  I'd like to think that those that love me are happy with my successes and proud when I take risks and I've seen no indication that this is not the truth. Granted, some of us have families, 'friends' and co-workers that may be jealous at times (or all the time) but I think this is few and far between enough not to make a blanket statement to the world to "kiss my ass". I care if people are unhappy and I try to "play well with others' and sometimes this isn't going to be the case but I don't go out into the world with my sword drawn ready to fight.

I was a bit blown away by a panel of said coach's best students where two of the three had some business practices that made me wonder if they really wanted business.  They are obviously having success so maybe some clients like being told "How it is".  What would you think as a buyer if your agent said "my hours are 9-5 Mon to Fri and if you are serious about buying a house then you will take a day off work to go look on MY time??

I know there are a lot of agents out there that let their real estate career and clients run their lives; and I totally agree that there are definate priorities above the business and you have to set boundaries, I just think this can be done without the 'KMA" attitude.  People want to work with who they like and trust, for this reason they will accept some ground rules of days off, phone hours, showing times etc... this just seemed to me to be a bit excessive and the rationalization of the business practices was a very defensive stand with one of the agents. I would be curious to know if this is really the way this agent portrays to clients or if it's just for the seminar. What do you think about operating on a "my way or the highway' business attitude?